This year to go along with my New Year’s resolutions, I decided to do backwards New Year’s Resolutions. What is a backward New Year’s Resolution? A backward New Year’s Resolution involves reflecting on the past year and looking for what is working, what went well, and what was helping the family. Then, it involves resolving to keep those behaviors as the family moves into the New Year.
Now, generally, the New Year is met with resolutions to do better than the year before. This year, as we toasted the New Year, everyone in the family talked about one accomplishment they were proud of. Recounting everyone’s accomplishments made me realize that there are many things we are already doing well. Here are my backward New Year Resolutions.
Backward New Year’s Resolution #1: Make memories with my family
We spent a lot of time doing things as a family last year – from hiking adventures in the mountains, fishing in fantastic fishing holes, and amazing adventures geocaching; to family game nights, robotics teams, and making cookies. Each of these activities built stronger family bonds and taught amazing life lessons. I resolve to continue making memories with my family.
Backward New Year’s Resolution #2: Develop learning activities for my family
This last year, I started working with my children more intensively in each of the five STEAM categories to support and enhance the instruction they were receiving at school. These activities have led to fantastic toilet paper helicopter racing, rocket launching, craft stick bridge smashing, open line drawing, and fraction mastering. I’m also amazed at the progress my preschooler has made in mastering her letter sounds and formation. I resolve to continue developing these learning activities for my family members.
Backward New Year’s Resolution #3: Support positive behaviors within my family
My children have experienced some difficult things in their short lives, and they have needed some extra help as they coped with these things. This has led to some very difficult moments, days, and weeks even. But, we’ve been able to learn new techniques and have been able to grow and work through these hard moments together. I resolve to continue supporting positive behaviors within my family.
I encourage families and individuals to make some backward New Year’s resolutions to go along with their regular resolutions this year. Celebrate what’s been working and be proud of those accomplishments. The last year was filled with many adventures and great things. It’s a great way to honor what’s been done and evaluate what needs to be done in the next year. This also helps to make New Year’s resolutions more down to earth, because we end up making those resolutions from a positive frame of mind.
And for tradition’s sake, my New Year’s resolutions include: being more active daily; working on my home organization skills (they are struggling again); and making sure I keep my priorities focused where I want them to be focused: on my relationship with my God, my husband, and my children.
I wish you all a very Happy New Year!